There are variations of this common question being asked around this site. The common scenarios are:. You are putting yourself at the centre of his decision to be with someone else or his actions after you. But eventually, lukewarm or downright cold kicks in. Not every woman puts up with poor behaviour from men.
They recognise red flags, have clear boundaries and know when to opt out because they recognise that these men are no good. These are the ones that these foolish men will pursue and often lose their minds over. We met 3 months after they broke up.
She was married when they met to a man in jail. He told me that she told him she had filed divorce papers then was going to file etc. She never did and wound up going back to her hubby when he got out of jail. His oldest daughter told me that she thought they would get married. And, here I sit…wondering what it was about her that made him so sure of how he felt about her when he tells me he loves me but is trying to figure it out.
That makes no sense to me. She has a myspace page and I go on almost every day and look at it. My EUM made up lies, not just about cheating or where he was he lied to me about his past and often times completely hid it indicating to me there was some embarrassment or insecurity. Men do have insecurities NML is totally right. The new girl that my EUM is with he has described as young and unsuccessful. He often expressed resentment towards me for things I had, the friends I hung out with, my education, my job.
They may be happy with these new women because often there is great relief that comes from getting away from people with standards. Their version of happy might not be ours… it goes back to that common ground post.
In the end, these men are probably not going to be alone forever and we have to accept that. Jenn, I have thought that to. My EUM is with the girl he Why did he start dating someone else on me with well, one of them and I obsessed over her and him together for a long time — months. I love what Dazedandconfused said: Please believe that sticking to no contact works. Think of it this way, if you start walking away from a place, and keep walking and walking and walking, eventually you will be so far away from the original spot that there will be no sense in turning around and looking back.
I agree with dazedandconfused, but also can relate to the obsessing that Noelle is going through. The only thing here that lead me out of the obsessing was doing exactly what NML says to do. Start realizing why a person keeps attracting these type of people. The hardest part is and always will be never letting them back in. It drug me down to the point where Why did he start dating someone else finally had to wake up and ask myself what had changed.
Nothing with him had Why did he start dating someone else, it got worse, the dissapearing acts went for a longer time, he got meaner, he disrespected me even more than before, etc. You hold the key to your own well being, your own destiny, your own happiness, everything. When you focus on yourself you empower yourself. I found this statement from another blog, I hope it helps you as much as it helped me.
You gotta stop wearing your wishbone where your backbone oughtta be.
Dazedandconfused, you are absolutely right with what you said! My ego took a good beating! Well thinking about that makes me feel a little better anyway. Any more thoughts on this? Thankyou so much NML. Daisy the only other thing that I can add to this is that being the controlling, obsessive woman that I am I say this with some humour I am sure I drove him nuts BUT these are the same qualities that make me successful in life.
I like to know what I am doing Friday on Tuesday, I plan ahead, organize my social life, etc. He likely would have called me at on a Friday to hang out at 8. Does this make him a bad person?
Not necessarily, but, and other people can beg to differ, but I find these guys are not often planners.
They are fly by the seat of their pants adventurers. We take them out of weakness but why do you think they come back? I have a theory that they really have no idea what they are looking for either.
My ex went from a long relationship, to me, to this new girl right away. Do you really think he has found the one within weeks of being with me? I think they look for cute and fun. If we are going to find someone better for us so are they.
I have read somewhere: Dazed, they come back because they know they CAN come back. Once they know the door is completely shut they will eventually stop.
If a man, that is not committed to me, calls me at 7: The point you made about them not knowing what they are looking for either. Lesson to be learned by all of us I think is that we need to Why did he start dating someone else what WE want in a relationship and from another person before we attempt to find someone to share our lives with.
We need to work on ourselves so that we are looking for the right stuff. No more stumbling around and settling for less than we deserve.
This is Why did he start dating someone else disgusting. No it has not happened yet. I am still in contact with him and working for him. I beat myself up for not being able to pull away when he was putting me second to Valerie.
And he is being such a prince to her too. I get to watch this man be so wonderful and devoted and loving to someone else. Except sometimes when we are talking business he will suddenly mention all the sexual things he would do to me were i there.