I hate him so much!
I just hate him. Besides, he can make it on his own.
He is a grown man. When you dislike something that you have a choice about, you avoid it. And 12 years is long enough to decide to leave and work out the details if you dislike it that much. And the stress takes an overwhelming toll on your body. You say you hate this man.
Why on Earth am I still with this guy? In fact, you probably resent doing that. I am sure you understand that you are both responsible for this marriage. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all go away! Once you understand the real reason why you are staying, it will all go away, one way or another.
Do you really want to know?
Have you ever been in a relationship with a man who accepted you wholeheartedly? But, I lost interest.
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This is called an attachment to rejection. We can go our entire lives caught in their grip. And we are all in this together.
He takes a perverse pleasure in the rejection — the punishment. How did I hide it from myself? The hatred is a defense mechanism. In fact, I hate people who reject me. I am not taking any strange pleasure in it!
Um…I…this is surreal, Mike. I feel like I am in forbidden territory here, but I can see what you are saying.
Sometimes I feel a strange thrill, like…. I won, or something…when he rejects me. I am a self-sabotager, too, you know. I know the subtle, distorted delight that comes when I do something self-destructive in my life. I need to let this go.
I need to move on. I asked Debbie to do nothing more for the next couple of weeks than pay attention to the hidden, yet pleasurable feeling of winning when she gets rejected. She followed through faithfully. Then, she thoroughly expressed her dissatisfaction to her husband and made a real effort to save the marriage over the next few months. During that time, she was careful not to provoke him and invite more rejection, which she noticed she had a tendency to do.
Six months later, she was divorced, living in a small condo and had lost her interest in a certain type of man that she had always attracted.
Of course, divorce is not inevitable. Many husbands adjust in a healthy way when the dance changes so profoundly.
There is one thing that you can get right and help any relationship you are in. The video below will shed some light on your situation. It will help you understand why you might be in your current relationship and what you can do to make it better.