Still, it was far from a smooth journey.
Though, in that respect, I guess I do have eHarmony and Match to thank for my writing career. Armed with years of slow-churned cynicism, I took to the internet to see if others shared my experiences. What I uncovered were some harsh realities about online dating that no one ever talks about.
After the jump, some things you might not have known…. Online dating sites love to boast about the millions of members they have.
Why you should never pay for online hookup sites few years ago, OKCupid calculated that Match was only marginally better, coming in at OKCupid was acquired by Match inand that article has since been taken down for obvious reasons. Of course, putting something on the internet is kind of like catching herpes: And that would be wise… if not for the scads of other evidence that online dating sites do in fact juice up their numbers.
To date, Match has been involved in a spate of lawsuits by disgruntled daters, alleging that the vast majority of their member profiles are inactive or outright fake. One suit went as far as to accuse Match of employing shills to entice members to renew their subscriptions. These cases were all dismissed or droppedbut the most recent one in did produce disheartening results well, disheartening for online daters — the results were great for Match.
This time, a federal judge threw out the case, on the grounds that Match makes perfectly clear in their terms of service that they do not screen member profiles, nor will they take any responsibility for doing so. In other words, even if the allegations are absolutely correct that most of their profiles are inactive or fake, Match is not obligated in any way to remove them. And hey, mad props to you for being such an exemplary case of human savvy.
Still, you might want to pay attention to this storyof the woman who went on a few dates with a man she met on Match, only to end up getting stabbed multiple times by him when she tried to break it off. Once again, Match got slapped with a lawsuit.
And this time… whoathey actually did something about it. InMatch finally announced that they would start implementing background checks. Woo hoo, score one victory for the online dater, right?
Hailing down on their own parade, Match admitted that the background checks may do little good. Were you actually trying to help? So, go ahead and enjoy online dating if you dare. Just be ridiculously wary of the human scum you may come across. And your date will never know the difference hopefully. And guys, if Mother Nature graced you with the splintered end of the eloquence stick, this man will be your online dating coach.
He will even pretend to be you throughout the entire communication process.
Using his background in screenwriting i. Have fun on your date!
Oh, and just to be perfectly clear, this particular entry is intended as a beware ofnot a how-to. Then again, when you read what comes next, you may want to consider outsourcing your dating life after all.
And this is exactly what happens on an online dating site. But, the problem is, there are just too many damned dating profiles out there. Obligatory selfie reveals a superfluous third nipple? Keep in mind, these are people you might totally have given a chance if you had gotten to know them in real life. But online, you have hundreds of potential dates that you have to pare down. And the easiest way to do so is to pick random, easy-to-spot dealbreakers that are invariably shallow and overly critical.
Browsing profiles does not appear to be such a mechanism.
Basically then, online dating will turn you into a superficial asshole. And it gets even worse when you pair your newfound shallowness with…. Yet another survey has shown that nearly one-third of women who do online dating have sex on the first date. Hold on a sec. If not, well, the problem is that online correspondence creates a false sense of familiarity, so that by the time you meet someone for the first time, you think you know them more intimately than you actually do.