How to cope with premature ejaculation

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PATTI EDITHMonday, August 19, 2019 2:43:51 AM

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For some men and their partners, ejaculating quickly may not be a problem. However, if it does cause distress, you may wish to address the difficulty.

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Although PE is a very common sexual problem, there are also several treatments available. Below we discuss some of the causes of PE and identify treatment options, exercises and techniques.

PE may occur due to medical conditions affecting the nervous system and urinary and reproductive areas of the body. Some common causes of PE stem from having limited sexual experience, infrequent sex, or a rushed masturbation style where you may have trained yourself to ejaculate quickly. Other influences can be worrying about losing your erection, experiencing anxiety over ejaculating too quickly, relationship difficulties and feeling shame and guilt associated with sex.

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There are several medical treatments available to help alleviate PE in the short term, such as topical numbing cream that can be applied to the penis.

A condom would need to be worn during sex with a partner, to prevent the cream affecting them. As with all medication, there may be side effects and it may take a few attempts to notice the benefits.

There is also an oral treatment available, which is a low-dose anti-depressant that has been developed especially for PE. There are exercises that you can practice until you have gained more control over your ejaculation:.

Situated between your legs is a layer of supportive muscles, known as the pelvic floor or PC muscles.

Strengthening them can enable you to have more control over your ejaculation. Three times a day perhaps at meal timessqueeze and lift the muscles in that area, then relax them fully.

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This should only take a few minutes and you can do it whilst sitting or standing. When you squeeze the PC muscles, it should feel as though you are holding in wind or urine. The stop-start technique is a widely used exercise that can help to control sexual excitement in men.

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When practiced this exercise can help you hold off from ejaculating for longer periods of time during sex. Three times a week, stimulate your penis and notice your arousal increasing. Imagine a scale marking your sexual excitement as it builds from one to ten.

When you are happy with the time it takes you to ejaculate during this exercise, make it more challenging by adding in lubrication to stimulate yourself with, and then ask your partner to take part in the exercise.

Doing this exercise regularly can help you to become an expert in recognising the stages of your arousal process and to know which point to stop stimulation for a while to slow things down.

Practicing a de-sensitising exercise regularly can be helpful. Ten minutes twice a day, pull back your foreskin if you have oneapply some lubrication, then walk around so that your underpants are touching the sensitive area of your penis to get used to this sensation.

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You might find yourself trying to think about unsexy things to slow your arousal, but then sex becomes about performance, rather than about your pleasure. To become more present and less preoccupied, focus on the physical sensations you are experiencing in your entire body when you and your partner touch each other.

Ask yourself, what temperature, textures and pressures can you notice?

Explore what you can smell, taste, see and hear. Stay with the physical sensations when your mind starts to wander. Focus on touching and stimulating your partner, asking them what they enjoy and allowing them to guide your hand around their body. Indicate to your partner when your arousal is high, then your partner should apply a very firm squeeze to the head of the penis for seconds.

This will inhibit the ejaculatory reflex and you may lose your erection somewhat for a little while.

You can repeat this every time your arousal builds, until you wish to ejaculate. Having co-operation and support from your partner will go a long way in helping you to overcome PE. If your partner resents and blames you for it, this can deepen your feelings of shame and increase conflict within the relationship, which is likely to make it worse.

If you find that you still need further help with PE or any other sexual difficulties, you may wish to seek specialist help from a qualified, accredited Psychosexual Therapist. How to overcome Premature Ejaculation — effective treatments and techniques.

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Primary Premature Ejaculation (PE) describes a man who ejaculates in less than a minute of penetrative sex around 75% of the time. For some. For couples dealing with this common problem, there are solutions.

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