Should I have sex with a guy I'm not attracted to? January 28, I'm getting sick of finding I'm in the mood and not being able to really enjoy it. A new guy I met recently has fallen madly for me, and would clearly get physical if I showed any interest in him. Hookup a guy you are not attracted to is I don't find him physically attractive at all, and I don't think there is any chemistry for me, but he seems trustworthy and an ok person. Have any of you girls ever done this - what was it like?
If there's no attraction AND no chemistry, then I really don't think it's worth it. In a similar situation, I just felt kind of icky and unsatisfied after.
My vote's a no, on a number of levels. He might open himself up to a casual thing in the hope of winning you over, even though you've set ground rules, etc. It's hard to tell since you've given such little information, but this sounds like a mismatch which isn't good for any relationship, even a casual one. Not fair to him, not fair to you.
Bad karma all around. If he's fallen madly for you, and you don't feel the same way at all, it's probably a recipe for disaster. I don't think it will really be casual sex for him even if he says it is. Don't play with people just to get your rocks off. In my experience, sex with someone you're not into even without leading them on leaves you feeling kind of icky and unsatisfied after. Go for it if you want to, although considering how mad about you you think this guy is, you owe it to him to be clear up front that it's casual sex and not going anywhere.
You'd leave him hurt Hookup a guy you are not attracted to the end of it, because he'd realize that you took advantage of his geunine affection to just use him for sex. Apply the Golden Rule: He was conventionally good looking, and an incredibly kind, awesome person, but with ZERO chemistry, I ended up having to close my eyes most of the way through the act.
Strangely enough, he was also the most skilled partner I've ever had, and in one night, he literally doubled the total number of orgasms I've ever been given by a partner. But I walked home that night knowing I couldn't lie to myself, and sent him a "that was nice, but not again, thanks" email.
His feelings for you only further push this intO "heck no" territory. Not to pile on well, ok, to pile on. But it wouldn't be a kind thing to do to this particular guy. If you just get want to get it on, find some dude who isn't that into you either.