Before we get going, I have a few misunderstandings about truly pleasing your man in bed that need addressing…. Firstly, you must understand that there is no one, perfect technique.
There is no magic pill.
Another misunderstanding that trips up many women when figuring out how to pleasure your man is thinking that all men are the same. Both you and I know that everyone is different.
We all have different kinks, fantasies and peculiarities. Some guys love nothing more than to eat your ass for hours, while others would wretch at the thought.
Lastly, and most importantly, is understanding that great sex is a two way street. Although hard to plan, spontaneous sex is not only incredibly exciting and fun, it can leave you with some of the best memories to return to when you find yourself alone.
Spontaneous sex is hard to plan the name should be a giveaway. Thankfully there are few ways to make it more likely to happen. New places — Camping, going on vacation, staying in a hotel or even staying in a new place in your town make spontaneous sex much more likely to happen.
Psychologically, you are removed from your routine, making spontaneous sex all the more likely. A drink or a smoke — Alcohol is a very easy way to loosen yourself up and most of us can attribute it to some very satisfying, pleasurable and often unexpected sex.
But alcohol is not for everyone. If you live in a state where marijuana is legal, then that can also have a somewhat similar, but different effect. There are a bunch of other great strategies that will make spontaneous sex more likely, but the above two are by far the easiest and most reliable.
Build sexual tension — By far the most important technique you should be using is sexual tension. Building sexual tension over a number of weeks with your man will turn him into the equivalent of a dog staring at a juicy steak.
His mind will only be able to think about one thing, you. Watching two people flirt is very much like watching two puppies play-fight.
Just remember that the aim of flirting is not to hurt your man, just to play with him. Flirting with your man can be as simple as rolling your eyes dramatically when he starts talking about his favorite sports team again.