Struggling to think of the right thing to say to an attractive match?
This is basic, but sometimes daters forget that the first thing a match will do when they receive an interesting message is click on the profile of the person who sent it. For more advice, check out our top tips for writing your online dating profile.
Just aim for something pithy and personalised. If your match mentions loving a specific film, use a quote from it as your subject. If they love a certain stand-up comic, use the beginning of one of their jokes you know.
Research has shown that people warm towards hearing their own name in conversation. Make it sweet and fun.
Instead, start by saying what caught your eye about their profile. If their profile made you laugh out loud in the middle of Tesco, say it.
If you despaired of ever meeting a woman who loved football even if you question her choice of teamsay it. The easiest way to start a conversation with anyone new is to ask a question, so include one. Tailor it to their interests or their work, or even one of their photos.
A good first message is sweet, and short. One hundred words is about right: Just aim to get a conversation going.
As they say in showbiz, leave them wanting more. Similarly, if you claim to love your job but the time stamp on your message says you sent it at 9. Stick to neutral hours, like lunchtimes and early evening.
Ideally, write it before you leave the house to do something interesting. Have fun writing your messages, and enjoy the process of meeting someone new.