A foreigner and a Chinese girl kiss on a street. A couple wearing traditional Chinese costumes takes wedding photographs.
Foreign men share tips on how to woo young women in China. By Wang Han Source: A recent Korean television show, Descendants of the Suncaused quite a stir in China. Starring Song Joong-ki, his on-screen techniques at charming and seducing the female lead provoked heated discussions on China's social websites. Chinese men have been criticized often by Chinese women for lacking romantic ideals and not being able to woo women with style and passion.
Certainly many Western men have a tradition of romanticism and a perceived ability to be able to charm women off their feet. The Global Times talked to four foreign men about how they had, or would, pursue Chinese women and how to win a woman's heart in Shanghai.
Different stages Thirty-something Lee pseudonym is from California. According to him, there are different stages of dating in the US, from the first meeting to the stage of becoming girlfriend and boyfriend.
He said that what makes him good at attracting women is knowing what to say at different times. In the initial pick-up stage, his tip is: Instead, a man should have been carefully observing the girl to see what makes her different. Then the girl knows this guy is not saying generic stuff, he is observing her," Lee said.
Once a man has approached a girl and introduced himself, the next step is to ask for numbers. But Lee said it's better not to rush - have a relaxed chat with the girl and get her involved before asking for numbers.
In the introductory chat Lee advises that the man should not talk about himself too deeply - just offer light information that will make the girl feel comfortable about sharing some of her details. But the key for this stage is knowing when. In America Lee said men usually wait two or three days before calling to show that they are not desperate.
If you call a girl immediately, this shows you need her and shows weakness. But showing you are worthwhile is not about showing off.